When a Lunch Disagreement at Work Turned Into a Lesson in Understanding

I eat my lunch at my work desk. My colleague, who sits right next to me, is vegan. Yesterday, I was having a burger and she said, “Stop bringing meat! You’re not alone—some of us feel sick from the smell.” I was surprised, because I had never had an issue eating my meals quietly, and no one had raised a concern before. I politely told her I understood her preference, but that everyone at work had different dietary choices.

This morning, I came to work and froze in shock. I saw that HR has placed a notice on the office bulletin board requesting employees to be mindful of strong-smelling foods in shared areas. It didn’t mention me or the incident, but I knew what sparked it. My heart sank—not because I was in trouble, but because I didn’t expect the situation to escalate beyond a simple comment between coworkers.

At lunch, instead of eating at my desk, I went to the break room. My colleague approached me later and apologized for going to HR indirectly. She shared that certain food smells genuinely made her feel unwell, but she hadn’t meant to make me uncomfortable or single me out. I admitted I had been caught off guard, and we both agreed that open communication would have helped avoid misunderstanding.

Now, we’ve settled on a respectful middle ground. I’ll use the break room or bring meals with mild aromas, and she promised to talk to me directly if anything bothers her in the future. It was a reminder that workplaces bring many personalities and lifestyles together, and sometimes a little empathy—and an honest conversation—can solve issues far better than rules or complaints. In the end, we learned to create a more comfortable environment for both of us.