My Brother and His Family Ignored the Dinner I Spent Hours Cooking and Treated Me Like a Servant in My Own Home – Then Our Sick Mom Stepped Out of Her Room #5

Growing up, I always felt like I was living in my brother Dave’s shadow. He was two years older than me, and from the moment he could walk and talk, everything revolved around him.

My brother always wanted to make everything about himself, and somehow, he always succeeded.

“Look what Dave drew today!” Mom would exclaim, hanging his crooked stick figure on the refrigerator while my carefully colored drawing sat forgotten on the kitchen counter.

“Dave got an A on his spelling test!” Dad would announce at dinner, ruffling his hair while I sat there with my A+ paper tucked quietly in my backpack.

It wasn’t that I was jealous, but I just wanted someone to notice me, too. Dave was the golden child who thought the world revolved around him, and honestly, in our house, it kind of did.

Our parents always paid attention to him rather than me, and they always favored him over everything I did.

When Dave scored a goal in soccer, the whole family would pile into the car to celebrate with ice cream. When I made the honor roll three semesters in a row, I got a “that’s nice, sweetheart” and a pat on the head.

When he needed help with homework, Dad would sit with him for hours, patiently explaining math problems. But when I struggled with the same subject, I was told to “figure it out yourself.”

“Dave needs more support,” Mom would say when I complained. “He’s having a harder time adjusting.”

But I was adjusting, too.

I was trying to find my place in a family that seemed to have already decided I was the supporting character in Dave’s story.

As we grew up, I watched my brother develop this entitled behavior that seemed to get worse with age.

He expected everyone to drop everything for him to cater to his needs.

And the worst part was that it usually worked.

Soon, he went off to college on a partial scholarship that our parents never stopped bragging about.

I followed two years later, paying my own way through school with student loans and part-time jobs.

We both graduated.

He had a business degree and immediately landed a job at Dad’s friend’s company. Meanwhile, I was the one with a teaching degree and the long, hard road of substitute teaching ahead of me.

We started having our own lives after college, living in different cities and pursuing different careers.

We did meet occasionally during holidays and family gatherings, and we maintained nice enough terms, but it wasn’t like we were best friends. We were cordial siblings who had learned to coexist without the constant competition of our childhood.

Then, Dave got married to Stacey, a sweet woman who seemed to genuinely care about him. Everyone was so happy for him, and honestly, I was too. I was genuinely glad my brother had found his happily ever after.

Maybe marriage would help him grow up, I thought. Maybe having someone to love would make him less self-centered.

Time passed, and Dave and Stacey had their kids. They welcomed two beautiful children who became the new center of everyone’s universe.

I watched from afar as my brother transformed into a father, and I hoped that parenthood would change him for the better.

Surely, having kids would teach him responsibility, empathy, and how to put someone else’s needs first.

I thought he’d gotten better since becoming a husband and a dad. The few times I saw him at family gatherings, he seemed more settled and mature.

He talked about his children with genuine love and spoke about the challenges of balancing work and family.

For the first time in our lives, I felt like maybe we could have a real relationship as adults.

***

Lately, I’d been feeling lonely.

I was missing the idea of family more than the reality of it. My small apartment felt too quiet on weekends, and I found myself scrolling through Dave’s social media posts, watching his kids grow up through pictures.

Maybe it was time to bridge that gap.

So, I decided to take a leap. I called Dave one evening after work, feeling nervous but hopeful.

“Hey, big brother,” I said when he answered. “I was thinking… why don’t you and Stacey bring the kids here for a long weekend? You could stay at my place, and we could really spend some quality time together.”

“Really?” Dave sounded surprised. “That would be great, Em. The kids have been asking about their Aunt Emily.”

My heart warmed at that.

“And Mom too,” I added. “She’s been wanting to see everyone, and my guest room is big enough.”

“Perfect. Stacey’s been stressed with work lately, so a getaway sounds amazing.”

We settled on a weekend three weeks away, and I was beyond excited.

I prepared for days, cleaning every corner of my apartment, and buying ingredients for all of Dave’s favorite meals from childhood.

I remembered how much he loved Mom’s pot roast, so I called her for the recipe.

I picked up craft supplies for the kids and researched the best playgrounds nearby.

When the weekend finally arrived, I was practically bouncing with anticipation.

Dave, Stacey, and their two kids, Emma, eight, and Jake, five, pulled up to my building with suitcases and excited chatter. I rushed downstairs to help with their bags, hugging everyone tightly.

“Welcome to my home!” I said, ushering them inside. “I’m so happy you’re here.”

The kids immediately started exploring my apartment.

Stacey looked around appreciatively. “Emily, this place is beautiful. Thank you so much for having us.”

“Of course! Make yourselves comfortable. I’ve got activities planned for the kids and—”

“Where’s Mom?” Dave interrupted, looking around.

“She’s coming in later, remember? Her flight lands in an hour.”

I made everyone feel nice and comfortable, showing them where everything was, and getting the kids settled with snacks and juice boxes.

The energy was wonderful, exactly what I’d hoped for. Then Mom arrived, and I went to pick her up from the airport.

But when we got back, I could tell something was wrong. Mom looked pale and tired.

“Are you feeling okay?” I asked, taking her arm as we walked to the elevator.

“Just a little under the weather,” she said, leaning on me slightly. “I think the flight took more out of me than I expected.”

When we got upstairs, Mom’s condition seemed worse. She was barely making conversation, and I could see she was struggling to keep up with the kids’ excitement.

“Mom, why don’t you lie down in the guest room?” I suggested. “Rest up, and I’ll call you when dinner’s ready.”

She nodded gratefully. “That sounds good, sweetheart. I’m sorry… I wanted to help you cook.”

“Don’t worry about it,” I assured her. “Just rest.”

I got her settled in the guest room, bringing her water and making sure she was comfortable.

Then, I headed to the kitchen to start on the elaborate dinner I’d planned. Pot roast, mashed potatoes, green beans, fresh bread, and apple pie for dessert.

It was going to be perfect.

I spent the next three hours in the kitchen, carefully preparing everything just the way I remembered Mom making it. The pot roast was tender and flavorful, the potatoes were creamy and buttery, and the whole apartment smelled incredible.

I kept checking on Mom, who was resting quietly, and listening to the sounds of Dave’s family enjoying themselves in the living room.

When everything was ready, I called out cheerfully, “Dinner’s ready, everyone! Come to the table!”

I waited by the dining table I’d set with my best dishes, expecting to see everyone come around the corner. But nothing happened.

I could hear the TV still playing, the kids’ video games beeping, and Stacey’s phone playing some video.

Maybe they hadn’t heard me over all the noise.

I walked closer to the living room and called out again, louder this time. “Dinner’s ready! Everything’s hot!”

Still nothing.

Dave was sprawled on my couch, completely absorbed in a football game, Stacey was sitting in my armchair, scrolling through videos with her phone volume up, and the kids were on the floor with their tablets, completely lost in their games.

I stood there for a moment, feeling confused and increasingly frustrated. I’d just spent hours cooking their favorite foods, and they couldn’t even acknowledge me?

“Okay,” I said to myself, trying to stay positive. “Maybe they’re just really relaxed.”

I went back to the kitchen, made myself a plate, and sat down at the table alone. The food was delicious, but it tasted bitter as I ate by myself, listening to my family ignore the meal I’d prepared with so much love.

I kept glancing toward the living room, hoping someone would notice the amazing smells and come join me.

But they didn’t.

This wasn’t what I’d imagined at all.

I’d pictured us sitting around the table together, talking and laughing, the kids telling me about school, and Dave and I finally connecting as adults.

Instead, I was eating alone while they treated my home like a hotel and me like invisible staff.

When I finished eating, I sat there for a few minutes, hoping someone would eventually come to the table. But the TV got louder, Stacey’s videos kept playing, and the kids’ games continued beeping.

Twenty minutes had passed since I’d first called them for dinner.

I felt anger building in my chest.

It was a hot, familiar feeling from childhood when Dave got attention, and I got overlooked. Why weren’t they listening to me?

I picked up my plate and walked to the living room, trying to keep my voice calm. “Is anyone going to eat? I made all your favorite foods.”

Dave glanced up briefly from the TV. “Yeah, in a minute. The game’s almost over.”

“I’m kind of in the middle of something,” Stacey said, not even looking up from her phone.

The kids completely ignored me, their thumbs flying across their tablet screens.

I stood there holding my empty plate, feeling like I was nine years old again, begging for attention that would never come. The food had been sitting out for 20 minutes now, and it was getting cold.

All that work, all that planning, and all that hope… for nothing.

“The food’s getting cold,” I said.

“We’ll eat in a bit,” Dave said dismissively, waving his hand at me like I was a waitress interrupting his meal.

That gesture broke something inside me. I walked back to the kitchen and stared at the beautiful spread of food that no one cared about. Hours of cooking, days of planning, and this was what I got? Being treated like a servant in my own home?

I started scraping the plates into the garbage, my hands shaking with anger and hurt.

Everything I’d made was going into the trash because my family couldn’t be bothered to respect my efforts.

I was shoving the green beans into the garbage disposal when I heard footsteps behind me.

“Emily, what are you doing?” Dave’s voice was confused and slightly annoyed. “Why are you throwing the food away?”

I turned around, my face hot from holding back tears.

“Because no one wanted to eat it,” I said. “I called you 20 minutes ago, and you all ignored me.”

“I told you we’d eat in a minute,” he said, like I was being unreasonable. “You didn’t have to throw it away.”

I was about to tell him exactly what I thought of his “in a minute” when I heard the guest room door open. Mom appeared in the doorway, looking tired but alert. She must have heard our voices.

She took one look at the garbage disposal full of food, at my tear-stained face, at Dave standing there looking annoyed, and her expression changed completely.

“Dave,” she said, her voice quiet but filled with steel. “She’s not your servant.”

Dave opened his mouth to argue, but Mom held up her hand.

“The least you and your family could do was acknowledge the effort someone puts into cooking for you. Your sister spent hours making your favorite meal, and you couldn’t even be bothered to respond to her. I could hear everything in there.”

I started crying then, not from anger anymore, but from relief.

Finally, someone was standing up for me.

Finally, someone saw what I’d been going through my whole life.

“Now you take your wife and kids, and you all go cook another dinner for everyone,” Mom continued, her voice getting stronger. “Or don’t be surprised if your sister won’t let you stay at her place again.”

Dave’s face went through several emotions, including surprise, anger, and then shame. He started to say something, then stopped.

Without a word, he turned and walked toward the kitchen.

“Stacey!” he called. “Kids! Come help me cook dinner.”

His wife looked up from her phone, confused and annoyed, but she saw Mom’s expression and reluctantly got up. The kids grumbled but followed their parents to the kitchen.

I collapsed into Mom’s arms, sobbing with 20 years of pent-up frustration and hurt. She held me tight, stroking my hair like she used to when I was little.

“I should have done this a long time ago,” she whispered. “I’m sorry, sweetheart.”

Later that evening, after Dave had apologized and they’d all helped cook a simple pasta dinner together, he pulled me aside.

“I’m sorry, Em,” he said, and for the first time in my life, he looked genuinely ashamed. “I didn’t realize… I’ve been selfish. We all have.”

It wasn’t a magic fix, but it was a start.

And for the first time in our relationship, I felt like maybe we could actually become the siblings we were meant to be.

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