My girlfriend and I planned a dinner date, and I booked a fancy place for us. But when I arrived, she brought her parents, brother, and cousin. I was surprised but stayed quiet.
When the bill came, she expected me to pay. So without telling anyone, I stood up, smiled, said I needed to use the restroom—and walked out. I didn’t even look back.
It might sound harsh, but let me explain. I’d been dating Priya for almost seven months. She was fun, smart, and had this confidence that made people lean in when she spoke.
But over time, I noticed little things—how she’d talk over waiters, how she’d mock my small apartment even though she knew I was saving for school, how she never offered to split anything, ever. Still, I liked her. Enough to keep trying.
Enough to plan this dinner at Alonzo’s, one of the nicest spots in the city. It wasn’t cheap, but I wanted it to be special. It was supposed to be our evening.
So when I showed up and saw not just her but five family members squeezed around the table, laughing like this was a wedding reception, my stomach dropped. I blinked. “Uh… what’s going on?”
Priya waved me over.
“Come sit! I thought it’d be nice for you to finally meet everyone.”
Everyone? We’d barely talked about me meeting her parents.
And certainly not like this. Her dad gave me a once-over before going back to his wine. Her cousin—whose name I still don’t remember—barely looked up from his phone.
I sat down slowly, like someone trying not to set off a landmine. “I thought it was just us tonight.”
She giggled, reaching for a menu. “Surprise!
You’re always saying how important family is, so…”
Right. I told myself to just get through it. Maybe she really thought it was a good idea.
Maybe this was some awkward cultural moment I didn’t understand. But as the night went on, I realized something: I wasn’t a guest. I was the host.
At least in their minds. Her mom ordered lobster. Her dad ordered a second bottle of wine without even glancing at the price.
Her brother, probably nineteen, asked if they had Wagyu steak. No one said thank you. No one asked if I was okay footing the bill.
No one even paused when the waiter asked if we were ready for dessert. They all nodded. More tiramisu?
Sure. Add a crème brûlée. Why not.
When the bill came, the waiter placed it in front of me—probably because I was the one who made the reservation. I didn’t touch it. Priya leaned in.
“Babe, are you gonna get this?”
Her tone was soft. But there was a flicker of expectation in her eyes, like this was all part of the plan. I looked at her.
Then I looked at the bill. It was $473.85. I swallowed.
Then I stood up, smiled, and said, “Excuse me. Be right back.”
I walked out. Straight through the front doors, past the valet stand, and kept walking until I hit the corner.
Then I took off running like I was in a movie. No one called. No one texted.
Until the next morning. At 8:03 AM, Priya sent a simple message:
“Are you serious?”
Then her cousin posted something on Instagram about “broke boys with bad manners.”
I ignored both. I figured that was that.
