My Fiancé’s Mom Said He Couldn’t Marry Me Unless I Agreed to One Condition #7

When I got engaged to Eric, I really believed we were perfect for each other and had it all figured out. However, it only took one bizarre ultimatum from his mother for me to move out of the apartment I shared with him. Settle down as I delve into my crazy story.

So, I am 30, Eric is 32, and we have been dating for three years. What I loved about being with him was that everything between us felt natural. We laughed at the same dumb reality shows, went out for movies or picnics on Sunday nights, and even had matching coffee mugs that said “Boss” and “Also Boss.”

So when he proposed a few months ago at the cabin we rented every fall, surrounded by the first flurries of snow, I said yes before he even finished asking!

But what I did not know, what I could not have known, was that our engagement would come with some insane conditions.

They were very specific, outdated, and humiliating conditions. And it all started at what should have been a happy night.

Eric’s family was set to come over to our apartment for a small celebratory engagement dinner last weekend. Joining us would be his parents, his three brothers, and their wives. Sadly, my family all lived in a different country and could only afford to fly over for the actual wedding, so I was at the mercy of my fiancé’s family.

I really wanted to impress them and for everything to be perfect. So, I booked myself off from work and spent nearly two full days prepping. I mean, I cooked, deep cleaned, and planned the whole thing to the T.

I even printed menus that said “Eric & Sarah, Engaged! April 27” in cursive, laminated in cheap plastic sleeves.

I knew they were traditional, old-school in their ways, but I wanted to meet them halfway. I really wanted to be accepted, especially since I was the first “outsider” joining their very tight-knit family in years. I even refused Eric’s help when he offered.

As they started arriving, I kept glancing at Eric. He gave me reassuring smiles and even winked once when I nervously adjusted my hair. The night started out great! Everyone was smiling, toasting, and seemed to love my food.

They complimented my roast chicken, laughed at my stories, and I caught Eric’s sister-in-law (SIL) Holly giving me a nod of approval when I poured wine with a steady hand.

At one point, I even caught Eric squeezing my hand under the table, and for a second, I thought—”This is it, I am finally part of the family!”

However, only one person, my fiancé’s mom, Martha, appeared quite tense the whole time. I should have known that would mean something, because right after dessert, she suddenly stood up!

She clinked her glass with a butter knife and smiled as everyone turned toward her. Then she cleared her throat, raised her wine, and said, “I will allow you to marry my son only if you pass the family wife test.”

At first, I laughed, thinking it was a joke. But no one else joined in, the room fell into an uneasy silence, and Martha looked dead serious. The other wives also had deadpan expressions on their faces as they nodded along, like this was normal.

The only sound was the hum of our dishwasher starting its cycle in the kitchen.

I looked at Eric, but he did not say anything. He just looked… expectant.

“What test?” I asked, with a forced smile.

That is when my future mother-in-law (MIL) whipped out a folded piece of paper from her purse and smoothed it out on the table, like it was a sacred scroll.

“It is a tradition in our family,” she said proudly. “Every woman marrying into our family has to prove she is a capable homemaker. It is how we know she is ready for the responsibility of being a wife.”

I stared at her with my mouth agape, not sure if I was hearing her properly.

Then she started reading the list aloud:

Cooking a three-course meal from scratch, with no recipe.

Deep-cleaning an entire house, including baseboards and blinds.

Ironing shirts and folding laundry to our standards.

Setting the table the correct way, with full place settings.

Hosting a tea for the family matriarchs, which includes her.

“And,” she added, “you have to do it all with a smile!”

I blinked. Surely this was not real.

“You are serious?” I asked.

Martha handed me the handwritten list. “It is just a fun tradition that has been passed down from my grandmother. The other wives all did it, and I just want to see if you are good enough to join the club.”

I looked around the table, and no one was laughing.

The three other women gave me solemn looks as if they were judges. Holly even said, “We all did it. It is just part of being in the family.”

I turned back to Martha, still keeping my cool. “I am sorry, but I do not cook or clean for fun. I work 50 hours a week and contribute equally in my relationship. I am not auditioning for some 1950s sitcom.”

Eric gave me a shrug. “They do not mean anything by it, my love.”

“It is just a tradition,” Martha said sweetly. “We are just trying to see if you are truly prepared for the responsibilities of being a wife.”

Then, before I could even react further, my so-called fiancé stood up and reached into his pocket. “Babe, just do it. It will mean a lot to them. And it is not like they will say no if you mess up.” Then he handed me their traditional “dust cloth.”

That was it! That was the moment I realized I was not marrying just Eric, I was marrying a whole family stuck in the past, and my future husband did not have the spine to stand up to them!

I stood up, smoothed out my dress, and said, “Thank you all for coming. Dinner is over.”

Martha looked horrified, while one of Eric’s brothers chuckled, though it sounded more like a nervous cough. His father just kept eating, unfazed!

Eric followed me into the kitchen, voice low and angry. “What the hell are you doing?”

“I am ending the audition,” I snapped.

“You are making a scene, babe! It’s just how they show love!” he hissed. “It’s their way!”

“Well, it is not mine,” I said. “And I do not want that kind of love where I have to earn respect through domestic trials. I am not here to pass a scavenger hunt of chores to prove I am worthy of a man who should already know I am.”

Seeing that I was not budging, Eric sighed and went to make excuses for me to his family, who eventually left.

That night, I slept in the guest room with the door locked, refusing to talk to Eric, who begged and pleaded. The next morning, I packed a bag and left to stay with my best friend Monica across town. I needed clarity and silence.

I ignored Eric’s texts. His last one said, “I just wanted us to all get along. That is all.” I could not even reply. Not yet.

Then Martha called me directly two days later.

“Can we talk?” she asked. “Woman to woman.”

I debated hanging up, but curiosity got the better of me.

“I think things got out of hand,” she said. “The test was just meant to be a symbol of your commitment. You are not the first to feel upset about it. I just needed to know how serious you are about Eric?”

“You really want to know?” I asked. “Then let me tell you. If you wanted to test me, you should have tried treating me with basic respect. Not with a dust cloth and a checklist.”

“I didn’t mean to offend,” she said. “It’s just that every wife in this family goes through it. It’s tradition.”

“Well,” I said, my voice firm, “traditions evolve. Or they die.”

She did not call again after that.

Meanwhile, Eric kept sending me apologies.

But that was not the point. The point was, he did not do anything when it mattered. He did not stand up for me when I was surrounded. He let me sit there and be evaluated like I was applying for a role in their family, not marrying someone I loved.

Monica poured me a glass of wine one night and said, “You know, you could always talk to him again. See if he actually means it.”

“I know,” I said. “But love is not about passing someone’s test. It is about being seen. And I don’t think they will ever really see me.”

I still loved him. That was the hard part. He was not a bad man, just a man raised in a system he was too afraid to question. And that made me wonder what else he would stay silent on in the future?

The wedding is still on pause. I have not made a final decision. But I know now that I will never marry into a family where I have to scrub floors to be taken seriously. If Eric truly wants to be with me, then he will need to break the cycle, for good.

And if he cannot?

Then I will walk away, clean floors and all.

Sadly, Sarah isn’t the only one who had family traditions thrown at them by their fiancé’s family. Hannah’s fiancé kept a shocking family tradition from her until their wedding day. When Hannah stepped into the church, what she saw made her leave.