For ten years, I raised my grandson believing his father had simply walked away.
\nThen one afternoon, a woman from my daughter\u2019s past appeared beside her grave holding a sealed envelope.<\/p>\n
What she told me forced me to question everything I thought I knew about my daughter\u2019s final months.<\/p>\n
And what I eventually uncovered didn\u2019t just change the way I remembered Teagan.<\/p>\n
It changed the future I had built for her son.<\/p>\n
\u201cI made your daughter a promise,\u201d the woman said.<\/p>\n
\u201cNow it\u2019s time you knew the truth.\u201d<\/p>\n
She held out an envelope.<\/p>\n
My name was written across the front.<\/p>\n
In Teagan\u2019s handwriting.<\/p>\n
For a moment, I couldn\u2019t breathe.<\/p>\n
My daughter had been gone for ten years.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhere did you get that?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe gave it to me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhen?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThe day Lucas was born.\u201d<\/p>\n
My fingers tightened around the flowers I was carrying.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou\u2019ve had a letter from my daughter for ten years?\u201d<\/p>\n
The woman lowered her eyes.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
Before I could answer, I heard Lucas calling from the bottom of the hill.<\/p>\n
\u201cGrandma! I found it!\u201d<\/p>\n
He was running toward us from the car, waving the birthday card he had made for his mother.<\/p>\n
The woman looked at him.<\/p>\n
\u201cDon\u2019t open that envelope in front of him.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stared at her.<\/p>\n
\u201cWho are you?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMy name is Trudy.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat tells me nothing.\u201d<\/p>\n
She took a breath.<\/p>\n
\u201cI was one of Teagan\u2019s nurses.\u201d<\/p>\n
My stomach dropped.<\/p>\n
Lucas was almost beside us now.<\/p>\n
Trudy pressed the envelope into my hand.<\/p>\n
\u201cMy number is on the back.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then she walked away.<\/p>\n
Teagan had been eighteen when she told me she was pregnant.<\/p>\n
I asked about the father more times than I could count.<\/p>\n
\u201cDoes he know?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMom, please.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat\u2019s his name?\u201d
\n\u201cI can handle this myself.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou shouldn\u2019t have to.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cPlease stop making this harder.\u201d<\/p>\n
Every conversation ended the same way.<\/p>\n
The day Lucas was born, a doctor entered the waiting room and sat beside me.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m so sorry,\u201d he said. \u201cWe did everything we could.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stared at him.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe baby?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHe\u2019s alive.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then he paused.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe\u2019s going to need you.\u201d<\/p>\n
My daughter never came home.<\/p>\n
My grandson did.<\/p>\n
For the next ten years, it was just the two of us.<\/p>\n
Lucas grew into a curious, sweet boy who loved baseball, Sunday pancakes, and one question I could never answer.<\/p>\n
\u201cGrandma, who was my dad?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know.\u201d<\/p>\n
And now I had a letter from Teagan in my coat pocket.<\/p>\n
For the first time, I was afraid that the truth might be worse than not knowing.<\/p>\n
When we got home, I slipped the envelope into a kitchen drawer.<\/p>\n
Lucas dropped his backpack beside the table.<\/p>\n
\u201cWho was that woman?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSomeone who knew your mom.\u201d<\/p>\n
His face immediately brightened.<\/p>\n
\u201cReally? What did she say?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNot much.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDid she know my dad?\u201d<\/p>\n
I closed the drawer too quickly.<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas watched me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou always say that.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBecause there are things I genuinely don\u2019t know, sweetheart.\u201d<\/p>\n
He went quiet.<\/p>\n
That was something Teagan used to do too.<\/p>\n
I hated seeing it in him.<\/p>\n
After Lucas went to bed, I stood alone in the kitchen holding the envelope.<\/p>\n
Then I finally opened it.<\/p>\n
A photograph slipped onto the counter.<\/p>\n
Teagan was standing beside a teenage boy.<\/p>\n
I recognized him.<\/p>\n
Quiet.<\/p>\n
Polite.<\/p>\n
He had been inside our house twice while Teagan was pregnant.<\/p>\n
I barely remembered speaking to him.<\/p>\n
A worn baseball glove was tucked beneath his arm.<\/p>\n
Then I unfolded the letter.<\/p>\n
Mom,<\/p>\n
I know you think I won\u2019t tell you because I don\u2019t trust you.<\/p>\n
That isn\u2019t why.<\/p>\n
He knows about the baby.<\/p>\n
I stopped.<\/p>\n
My hands began shaking.<\/p>\n
Teagan continued.<\/p>\n
He wanted to stay. But wanting something and being ready for it aren\u2019t the same thing.<\/p>\n
His family keeps telling him this will ruin everything he planned.<\/p>\n
I told him not to come back because he\u2019s afraid of disappointing them.<\/p>\n
If he comes back, I need it to be because he chooses us himself.<\/p>\n
Then I reached the line that broke something open inside me.<\/p>\n
You kept asking who he was, but you never asked why I was scared.<\/p>\n
I lowered the letter.<\/p>\n
A memory came rushing back.<\/p>\n
One night during her pregnancy, Teagan had walked into the kitchen.<\/p>\n
\u201cMom, can I ask you something?\u201d<\/p>\n
I had been tired.<\/p>\n
I didn\u2019t even look up.<\/p>\n
\u201cIf this is about avoiding the father question again, I can\u2019t do this tonight, Tee.\u201d<\/p>\n
She stood there for several seconds.<\/p>\n
Then she quietly said,<\/p>\n
\u201cNever mind.\u201d<\/p>\n
For ten years, I remembered that moment as my daughter shutting me out.<\/p>\n
Now I wondered if I had been the one who closed the door.<\/p>\n
I called Trudy.<\/p>\n
She answered on the fourth ring.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou kept this for ten years.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDon\u2019t say that like it makes sense.\u201d<\/p>\n
She went quiet.<\/p>\n
\u201cMeet me,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
The next day, Trudy was waiting in the back booth of a small diner.
\nI placed the photograph between us.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou took care of Teagan?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cFor part of that day.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen why did she give you this letter?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe was scared,\u201d Trudy said. \u201cShe didn\u2019t think she was going to die, Elizabeth. She was eighteen and about to have a baby.\u201d<\/p>\n
That mattered.<\/p>\n
Teagan hadn\u2019t written the letter because she knew she was leaving us.<\/p>\n
She had simply been frightened.<\/p>\n
Trudy continued.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe told me that if something went wrong and the boy didn\u2019t come, I should give the letter to you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I pointed to the photograph.<\/p>\n
\u201cIs that him?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI don\u2019t know his name.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen what do you know?\u201d<\/p>\n
Trudy swallowed.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe came.\u201d<\/p>\n
I froze.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAfter Teagan died, I saw a young man near the maternity floor asking for her.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou spoke to him?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo. At first, I didn\u2019t realize who he was. Then I looked at him carefully and remembered Teagan\u2019s description.\u201d<\/p>\n
My pulse quickened.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat happened?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHe saw you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDoing what?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cLeaving with Lucas.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHe left.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stared at her.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou watched him walk away?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd then you kept my daughter\u2019s letter?\u201d<\/p>\n
Tears filled Trudy\u2019s eyes.<\/p>\n
\u201cI told myself you already had enough grief.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou made that decision for me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou made it for Lucas too.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
My anger became cold.<\/p>\n
\u201cSo why now?\u201d<\/p>\n
Trudy looked down.<\/p>\n
\u201cI retired a few months ago. Once I stopped telling myself I was still protecting a patient, I had to admit I was really protecting myself.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stood.<\/p>\n
\u201cTen years is a long time to hide behind one bad decision.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then I walked out.<\/p>\n
The following afternoon, I opened a storage box filled with Teagan\u2019s things.<\/p>\n
School programs.<\/p>\n
Photos.<\/p>\n
A cheap silver bracelet she wore almost every day.<\/p>\n
Then I found another photograph of the same boy.<\/p>\n
Same face.<\/p>\n
Same baseball glove.<\/p>\n
Beneath it was a torn notebook page.<\/p>\n
Buy diapers.<\/p>\n
Finish thank-you cards.<\/p>\n
Ask Mom about night classes.<\/p>\n
Tell Mom.<\/p>\n
I stared at the final words.<\/p>\n
Tell Mom.<\/p>\n
She had planned to tell me.<\/p>\n
She thought there would be time.<\/p>\n
\u201cGrandma?\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas stood in the doorway.<\/p>\n
He saw the open box and sat beside me.<\/p>\n
\u201cIs that Mom\u2019s stuff?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
I gave him an old school photo.<\/p>\n
He smiled.<\/p>\n
\u201cI look like her.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou have her eyebrows.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd her nose?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd her nose.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then he noticed the boy\u2019s picture.<\/p>\n
\u201cWho\u2019s that?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNobody.\u201d<\/p>\n
The answer came too quickly.<\/p>\n
Lucas frowned.<\/p>\n
\u201cThen why did Mom keep his picture?\u201d
\nI said nothing.<\/p>\n
He looked at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat lady told you something, didn\u2019t she?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAbout my dad?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m trying to understand everything first. Once I do, I\u2019ll tell you.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas stared at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou always tell me not to hide things because I\u2019m scared.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cSo are you hiding something?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
His honesty deserved mine.<\/p>\n
\u201cI need a little time. But I won\u2019t leave you wondering forever.\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded.<\/p>\n
Not happily.<\/p>\n
But he nodded.<\/p>\n
And now I had no excuse not to find the truth.<\/p>\n
An old school program gave me the boy\u2019s first name.<\/p>\n
After several wrong profiles, I finally found him online.<\/p>\n
I sent one message.<\/p>\n
My name is Elizabeth. I\u2019m Teagan\u2019s mother. I need to speak with you.<\/p>\n
Two hours later, he replied with one word.<\/p>\n
Lucas?<\/p>\n
He knew the name.<\/p>\n
We met the following morning.<\/p>\n
He was already sitting at a caf\u00e9 table, slowly turning his coffee cup in small circles.<\/p>\n
Exactly the way he had done at my kitchen table ten years earlier.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou knew Lucas\u2019s name.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cTeagan told me.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen you knew about him.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhy didn\u2019t you come?\u201d<\/p>\n
He looked at me.<\/p>\n
\u201cI did.\u201d<\/p>\n
I froze.<\/p>\n
\u201cI came to the hospital.\u201d<\/p>\n
Trudy\u2019s words rushed through my mind.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou were there?\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cMy parents wanted me to stay away. They believed a baby would ruin my future.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd what did you believe?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI was scared. I loved Teagan, but I let everyone else tell me what my life should look like.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThat explains being eighteen,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
\u201cIt doesn\u2019t explain ten years.\u201d<\/p>\n
He looked down.<\/p>\n
\u201cTeagan told me not to come back until I was willing to choose for myself.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI finally did.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAfter she died.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t know she was gone when I left home that day.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBut you found out at the hospital.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd you saw me carrying Lucas.\u201d<\/p>\n
He wiped his face.<\/p>\n
\u201cI panicked.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat about the next day?\u201d<\/p>\n
Silence.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe next week?\u201d<\/p>\n
Nothing.<\/p>\n
\u201cThe next year?\u201d<\/p>\n
His eyes dropped.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou weren\u2019t eighteen for ten years,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
\u201cI know.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI kept telling myself I had waited too long. Every year made that excuse easier.\u201d<\/p>\n
I believed him.<\/p>\n
That didn\u2019t excuse him.<\/p>\n
\u201cDoes Lucas know about me?\u201d he asked.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe knows his father exists.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cCan I see him?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n
His head lifted.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m his father.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou are the man who fathered him. What happens next depends on what you choose to do now.\u201d<\/p>\n
He swallowed.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat do you want me to do?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWrite him a letter.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cA letter?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cTell him who you are. Tell him why you weren\u2019t there. And tell him why you\u2019re here now.\u201d<\/p>\n
He nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd don\u2019t blame Teagan.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI won\u2019t.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou don\u2019t get credit for finally showing up ten years late,\u201d I said. \u201cBut you do get a chance to decide what kind of man you\u2019re going to be from this point forward.\u201d<\/p>\n
Two days later, an envelope appeared on my porch.<\/p>\n
Lucas\u2019s name was written across the front.<\/p>\n
I hated opening something addressed to him.<\/p>\n
But Lucas was ten, and I was still responsible for protecting him.<\/p>\n
One sentence stayed with me.<\/p>\n
I was scared when I was eighteen, but being scared doesn\u2019t explain ten years.<\/p>\n
He asked for no forgiveness.<\/p>\n
He blamed no one.<\/p>\n
Before I gave the letter to Lucas, I called Trudy again.<\/p>\n
\u201cCan we meet?\u201d<\/p>\n
She sounded surprised.<\/p>\n
\u201cI thought you\u2019d never want to see me again.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI didn\u2019t say I forgave you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI understand.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThere\u2019s something else I need.\u201d<\/p>\n
We met the next afternoon.<\/p>\n
This time, I wasn\u2019t there to discuss Lucas\u2019s father.<\/p>\n
I was there for my daughter.<\/p>\n
\u201cWas Teagan scared?\u201d<\/p>\n
Trudy\u2019s expression softened.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWas she alone?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo. There were people with her the entire time.\u201d<\/p>\n
The answer hit me harder than I expected.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid she ask for me?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
My throat tightened.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid she think I had left?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo. She knew you were waiting nearby.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat did she say?\u201d<\/p>\n
Trudy thought for a moment.<\/p>\n
\u201cShe was worried she hadn\u2019t bought enough diapers.\u201d<\/p>\n
I laughed through my tears.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat sounds exactly like her.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen she talked about you.\u201d<\/p>\n
I looked up.<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat did she say?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe said you made pancakes too thick and refused to admit it.\u201d<\/p>\n
A laugh escaped me.<\/p>\n
Even after ten years, Teagan could still embarrass me.<\/p>\n
Then Trudy said,<\/p>\n
\u201cShe wasn\u2019t angry with you.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe should have been. I spent so much time asking about Lucas\u2019s father that I forgot to ask my own daughter what she was afraid of.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cMaybe,\u201d Trudy said. \u201cBut that isn\u2019t what she left me with.\u201d<\/p>\n
I asked the question I had carried for a decade.<\/p>\n
\u201cDid she know I loved her?\u201d<\/p>\n
Trudy answered immediately.
\n\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
That was the first thing she had given me that didn\u2019t feel like another wound.<\/p>\n
That evening, Lucas found the photograph on the kitchen table.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat\u2019s him, isn\u2019t it?\u201d<\/p>\n
My first instinct was to hide it.<\/p>\n
Instead, I turned off the faucet, dried my hands, and sat across from him.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDid he know about me?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYes.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen why wasn\u2019t he here?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHe was scared when he was young. He listened to his parents instead of making his own decision.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas waited.<\/p>\n
\u201cBut later, he had choices of his own, and he still stayed away.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDid Mom want him to stay?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cShe wanted him to choose you for himself.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cDid he?\u201d<\/p>\n
I forced myself not to soften the truth.<\/p>\n
\u201cNot when he should have.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas stared at the photo.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you hate him?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI did before I knew who he was.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cAnd now?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI understand him better.\u201d<\/p>\n
I paused.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat isn\u2019t the same thing as forgiving him.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo I have to meet him?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cBut can I?\u201d<\/p>\n
Every frightened part of me wanted to say not yet.<\/p>\n
For ten years, Lucas and I had been enough.<\/p>\n
What if letting this man into our lives changed everything?<\/p>\n
Then I remembered Teagan\u2019s words.<\/p>\n
You never asked why I was scared.<\/p>\n
I wasn\u2019t going to make Lucas pay for my fear.<\/p>\n
\u201cYes,\u201d I said.<\/p>\n
Their first meeting took place at a public baseball field.<\/p>\n
Lucas chose it.<\/p>\n
His father was already there.<\/p>\n
In his hand was the same worn leather glove from the photograph.<\/p>\n
Lucas stopped when he saw it.<\/p>\n
\u201cThat\u2019s the glove.\u201d<\/p>\n
His father looked down.<\/p>\n
\u201cYeah.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou kept it all this time?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI kept more things than I had a right to.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas stepped closer.<\/p>\n
\u201cI\u2019m Lucas.\u201d<\/p>\n
Then he pointed toward the field.<\/p>\n
\u201cAre you any good?\u201d<\/p>\n
His father gave a nervous smile.<\/p>\n
\u201cNot really.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou owned a glove.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHaving a glove and being good are two completely different things.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas smiled.<\/p>\n
They started throwing the ball.<\/p>\n
At first, it was awkward.<\/p>\n
One throw went too high.<\/p>\n
Lucas missed it.<\/p>\n
\u201cSorry,\u201d his father said. \u201cThat one was my fault.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cI should\u2019ve caught it.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo. I threw it badly.\u201d<\/p>\n
I stood several yards away.<\/p>\n
After a while, Lucas asked him something I couldn\u2019t hear.<\/p>\n
His father crouched beside him.<\/p>\n
My body automatically moved one step forward.<\/p>\n
Then I stopped.<\/p>\n
Lucas looked at him.<\/p>\n
The man answered.<\/p>\n
I stayed where I was.<\/p>\n
One afternoon did not suddenly make him part of our family.<\/p>\n
The first week, he called once.<\/p>\n
The next week, twice.<\/p>\n
He never showed up without asking.<\/p>\n
He never demanded that Lucas call him Dad.<\/p>\n
And when Lucas didn\u2019t feel like talking one evening, he accepted it.<\/p>\n
I watched everything.<\/p>\n
Not because I trusted him.<\/p>\n
Trust wasn\u2019t something he earned simply by finally appearing.<\/p>\n
He would have to build it.<\/p>\n
Maybe I would too.<\/p>\n
Three weeks later, Lucas sat at the kitchen table eating Sunday pancakes.
\nToo thick, as usual.<\/p>\n
\u201cHe wants to come to my game Saturday.\u201d<\/p>\n
I set down the syrup.<\/p>\n
\u201cDo you want him there?\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas nodded.<\/p>\n
\u201cYeah.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cThen he should come.\u201d<\/p>\n
He studied me.<\/p>\n
\u201cYou won\u2019t be mad?\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cNo.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cHe\u2019s still not my dad-dad.\u201d<\/p>\n
\u201cYou don\u2019t have to decide what to call him.\u201d<\/p>\n
Lucas went back to his pancakes.<\/p>\n
I reached across the table and straightened his napkin out of habit.<\/p>\n
Then I looked at the syrup bottle.<\/p>\n
The crumbs.<\/p>\n
The plate sitting crooked beside his elbow.<\/p>\n
Normally, I would have fixed all of it.<\/p>\n
That morning, I left everything exactly where it was.<\/p>\n
Because for ten years, I had believed protecting Lucas meant controlling every uncertain thing around him.<\/p>\n
Now I understood something Teagan had tried to tell me long ago.<\/p>\n
Sometimes loving someone means asking what they\u2019re afraid of.<\/p>\n
Sometimes it means telling the truth even when the truth is uncomfortable.<\/p>\n
And sometimes it means giving someone the space to choose what happens next.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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